Life & Death

It has been over a month since a dear friend of mine passed away. It still hurts and I know a few people who are yet to recover from his death. Accepting death isn’t easy at all and especially when it was a very unfortunate ill timed early death. Since I know how badly it hurts, I thought I will share an article by Tim Ferris about Death and especially about suicide. The idea behind sharing an article here is to spread the word for those who are looking for motivation to avoid taking their lives. Tim has compiled a list of reasons which should give a new reason for living to those who are depressed.

To quote

Below are the realizations that helped me (and a few friends). They certainly won’t work for everyone suffering from depression, but my hope is that they help some of you.

  • Call this number : 1 (800) 273-8255. I didn’t have it, and I wish I had. It’s the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (website and live chat here). It’s available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, in both English and Spanish.

  • I realized it would destroy other people’s lives. Killing yourself can spiritually kill other people.

  • There’s no guarantee that killing yourself improves things!

  • If you don’t care about yourself, make it about other people.

  • Make a promise you can’t break, or at the very least realize this: killing yourself will destroy other people’s lives.

Life is precious, please do make the most of it. Life is definitely worth living every moment you have, even if it hurts.

Away- Poem

Away by James Whitcomb Riley :

I cannot say, and I will not say

That he is dead. He is just away.

With a cheery smile, and a wave of the hand,

He has wandered into an unknown land

And left us dreaming how very fair

It needs must be, since he lingers there.

And you—oh you, who the wildest yearn

For an old-time step, and the glad return,

Think of him faring on, as dear

In the love of There as the love of Here.

Think of him still as the same. I say,

He is not dead—he is just away.

Can’t put it any better. It is not yet a fortnight, since my friend passed away, and this is exactly how I feel. It feels like he is elsewhere.

via Matt

On life and philosophy.

Om has a very nice interview with the king of cashmere, Brunello here and it is totally worth your time. The amount of difference in one’s approach towards life is what sets some people apart. They not only inspire others, but also leave thief mark in the world.

There are three things you cannot buy. Fitness: You have to keep fit, whether you’re rich or not. Diet: You cannot pay someone to be on a diet for you. I think that diet is the biggest sacrifice in my life. Then, looking after your soul. No one can possibly treat your soul but you yourself. This is something you can do through culture and philosophy.

Soul is something nobody cares about these days, do we? Time to ponder.

It is the Journey not the goal.

In the madness that is our daily life, we often forget the essentials, we tend to count our value by how much we have, how much we have achieved but we almost always ignore the true value which comes from experiences we have gathered over time. James clear emphasises on the importance of this with a nice little story that you should read from his blog post.
This portion stood out for me.

We live in a world obsessed with results. Like Herrigel, we have a tendency to put so much emphasis on whether or not the arrow hits the target. If, however, we put that intensity and focus and sincerity into the process—where we place our feet, how we hold the bow, how we breathe during the release of the arrow—then hitting the bullseye is simply a side effect.

Do read the entire post. It is often the journey that matters isn’t it, after all life is a journey.